How Being Ordinary Can Be Good for Your Family
Everyone would like to be thought of as “special” or “extraordinary.” They want to be thought of as anything but “ordinary.” To accomplish this, they may try to be something they aren’t or spend money they don’t have to keep up appearances. If this describes your children or your family, it may be time to reflect on how just being ordinary can be good for your family.
Learn to like yourself for who you are. It’s true that there are some people who are very good at something and they may earn a certain degree of acknowledgement for that skill. Think of Olympic athletes, actors or musicians. While it would be great if everyone could achieve that same level of skill or ability, chances are it simply won’t happen. Learn to acknowledge that you may never be another Taylor Swift or Justin Bieber, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be the very best “you” there is. In the end, you have to live with yourself so it important that you like spending time with yourself.
Try to be your best no matter what your best may be. Some children feel pressured to get all A's in school. As a parent, it is vital that your child understands that you expect them to do their best. However, what happens when your child’s best is a C? Ask them if they studied for the test or paid attention in class. If they did these things and still only made an “average” grade, acknowledge their effort and be proud of them.
Forget about what others think. Sure, it’s nice to be thought well of, but that isn’t really what’s most important. What is most important is thinking well of yourself and acknowledging your abilities and uniqueness as individuals or as a family. Do the things that you enjoy as a family even if they are a little different than what others might do. It’s amazing how being true to yourself and not paying attention to what others say or think can be liberating.
When you aren’t as concerned about what others think, there’s also another benefit: you don’t have to try to “keep up with the Joneses.” You don’t have to have the most recent hot mobile phone on the market or the newest sports car. You know that not having to compete with other families will benefit your finances. You can save money for things that are important to you as a family rather than going into debt and being unhappy when the newest item comes along.
Don’t let your bad days affect how you live the rest of your life. Everyone has days when things simply don’t go the way they planned. If you’re having one of those days, it may be easy to let that affect the rest of the week, month or the rest of your life. Acknowledge that there will be days like that and look forward to a better day tomorrow. Look for anything good that happened that day and do your best to focus on that rather than the bad that may have happened. You’ll find that focusing on the positive will help you move forward rather than dwelling in the past.
It is easy to be caught up in what others think or expect out of us. However, by acknowledging how being ordinary can be good for your family and that you don’t have to live up to others’ expectations, your family will be able to be themselves and be happy about who they are individually and as a whole.