Tips for Breaking the Ice when Talking to your Grandchildren


There can certainly be awkward moments when trying to warm up to your grandchildren, especially if you don't see them very often. How do you start a conversation? Kids don't often want to talk about the same things that adults do. Here are some tips on breaking the ice, and how to talk to your grandchildren.

 

Avoid General Questions

 

Try to avoid broad questions like, "How's it going?" or "What are you learning in school?" Instead, ask some specific but non-threatening questions, such as, "Do you like your teacher? Does he/she assign a lot of homework?" or "Are you playing any sports this year?"

 

Share Your Experiences

 

A good ice-breaker with grandkids - and a conversational way to follow up some of the above questions - is to share a funny or interesting (and brief) story. If you're asking about school as suggested above, you could start by telling a story about one of your teachers or a funny experience you had at school. Then you could follow up with a question like, "You ever have anything like that happen to you?"

 

Reveal a Few Funny Details

 

You knew your grandchildren's parents when they were kids, so why not tell about that one time that their mum stole a chocolate bar from the shop and you had to pay for it, or the time their dad burnt the pan while trying to cook dinner. Kids love to hear that their parents are "human" too, and that they were once kids who made mistakes. You can also tell about your siblings or yourself - think of incidents that are funny without being humiliating. Then your grandkids might just tell you more than you wanted to know!

 

Play a Board Game

 

No matter how electronics-oriented kids are, a good board game can still break the ice. Some board games are more conversation-stimulating than others - try to choose one where the players need to interact.

 

Silence is Okay

 

Learning to be comfortable when others are silent is an art. Many people feel really awkward with silence, but your grandchildren may actually appreciate the open time and may find it helps them to open up. If you wait for your grandkids to fill in the quiet gaps, they might appreciate you for allowing them to take the initiative. Like some adults, not all kids like small talk.

 

Ask and Talk About Pets

 

If your grandkids have pets, these can be a great conversation starter. Many children who don't talk very much will really open up when it comes to their animal friends.

 

Learning your grandchildren's own personal style of communication is a good way to start. Then work within that to break the ice and enjoy your time with them.

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